There are times where it might seem like everything around you is crumbling down.

Nobody cares.

Everything seems to go against what you want to do.

The after-effects are genuinely remarkable. If you dig deep and look back, you might realize your threshold for pain and struggle can be surpassed. If something else were to happen, you wouldn’t be fazed by it because you now know how to overcome those obstacles.

Not only that, but it gives you an advantage!

Let’s look at a few people that have gone through some tough times

-Jk Rowling

-Stephen King

-Tyler Perry

-Oprah Winfrey

-Lionel Messi

-Michael Jordan

-Dr. Dre

The list goes on and on

If you take a look at almost every success story you, see a common factor they all had, which was some form of adversity.

-Growing up without parents or a single parent

-Growing up without money

-Experiencing hate or prejudice

-Having to work at a young age sacrificing school to be able to provide for the family

-Becoming an adult before actually being an adult

-Losing a loved one at a young age

These examples are not limited to just one person but among all across the board.

So why is it that they were able to go on and achieve amazing things.

They don’t have special powers or anything that makes them different from any of us.

The only difference is the will to fight because it was either fight or get eaten alive.

When someone hits rock bottom or goes through things in their lives, it turns on a switch. Sometimes it takes adversity for change to happen; otherwise, change might not occur.

Fear is part of nature. We experience anxiety and fear when there is uncertainty. When we don’t know what’s next or when something unexpected occurs, but fear also instills a sense of urgency. You begin to attempt things you wouldn’t have if it weren’t for the situation.

When you are fighting for your health, food, or shelter, you have two choices

1.) Give up

or

2) Fight as if there was no tomorrow

Sometimes I look at certain situations I have gone through or what I am currently going through and tell myself “it could be a whole lot worse.”

What is the one thing stopping me from achieving what I want in life

The answer is always

Me

All the b.s. that surrounds our lives is just noise. For some, it’s easy to suppress but for others, it is what we use to validate the things we do or don’t do.

Adversity, challenges, and obstacles might make it seem like it’s the end of the world. But they also help you understand yourself better. In the end, adversity can change the way you think and see the world for the better.

Who do you rep?

Do you double dip when it comes to buying clothing more specifically athletic wear?

Nike shoes

New balance socks

Adidas shorts

Under Armour shirt

Puma sweatband

Or is that ratio going a little too far?

Brand loyalty or price?

Times are tough and sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. I’m going to be honest with you I tend to learn more towards Adidas when I buy my gear but if I see something that is on sale and it just happens to be from Nike. I’m not going to say no.

Is there such a thing as going too far?

There is nothing wrong with wearing different brands but as far as personal taste I limit myself to 2 brands. I find that for myself it’s not so much about having too many logos on me but more about different brands having different styles. What does that mean?

Since different brands have different styles they don’t always look good when wearing them together.

Everything comes down to personal taste, so you do what feels right in your heart. If it fits your style, and all comes together go for it. Just keep in my you will most likely come out looking like you should be in one of Richard Simmons exercise videos.

Does it bother you when you see someone wearing too many brand? 

The money trap

Money can make people do some interesting things.  How many times have you’ve heard someone say “I hate my job, but the money is good.” A job can be affecting someone’s health and even then, the money comes can be the deciding factor.

Circumstances

Circumstances always play a role in every decision we make. There are a lot of factors such as family, friends, and situations that affect what we choose to do. With that being said, 10 to 15 years is a long time in most cases. It’s understandable if something happens and you need a few years to bounce back. Playing the money card is not a reason to stay that long. Especially if a job is driving you insane.

How much money is enough money

Everyone needs to pay their bills and other expenses but in reality, how much do we need to cover all of our expenses and still be able to enjoy life. It seems like for most people the more money we make the more we end up spending.

Enjoying every single day

As cheesy as it sounds “Happiness can’t be bought”It seems like every other week there is a celebrity that is making millions and ends up taking their own lives because they aren’t happy.

I’m not going to lie in some instances money does talk. At the end of the day what you drive, what you wear, what you own doesn’t mean a thing if you’re not happy.

Finding success can be very tricky but in the end, doing what makes you happy can so much more to your life than any amount of money.

Do you define success by the amount of money you make or by doing what you love every day?

Its 10 pm Thanksgiving night

Standing sitting waiting

Nothing like our Thanksgiving night

Family time, eating, turkey no more

It seems like each year Black Friday gets bigger and better. The deals get sweeter on things we don’t even need. Thanksgiving dinners for some are more like standing in line for hours on end.

Black Friday a national holiday

Black Friday isn’t even an official holiday, but it is the biggest unofficial holiday of the year. The amount spent in 2018 during Black Friday sales will be over 700 billion dollars. Just to put things in perspective 2008 was marked by the financial crisis. Even then spending on Black Friday sales was about 500 billion. It’s insane when you think about the fact that people were losing their jobs, homes, and banks were closing. People still somehow had enough money to go shopping.

No more fighting more online shopping

There are still fights breaking out over getting electronics and other devices. But more and more people are shopping online. As online shopping has become more and more popular. Retailers are also changing to evolve to the online consumer. The best part is that online shopping offers retailers a lot more options to get you to buy more.

It’s beginning to look like money

The internet offers endless opportunities to target you and make you feel so special. Exclusive offers, one-day deals, get it now before its gone, countdowns. Numbers make your brain do things you wouldn’t normally do, and retargeting comes back to find you and stronger than ever. Everything you’ve been searching for the past few years suddenly starts to appear in ads in your searches, Instagram, Facebook, and many other places.

It’s safe to say Black Friday is here to stay and is only getting stronger. If you need some of the things that are on sale, it could be an excellent opportunity to save some money on things you need or things you know you’ll need soon. I know it’s hard to resist buying that new Ipad even though there is nothing special about it. Instead, have a nice Thanksgiving meal with those you love. You can still do some shopping in the comfort of your home while sipping on some hot chocolate, wine, or your favorite drink. The best part is that you don’t have to deal with the chaos.

Happy Black Friday!!

Someone once told me

“People fail because they follow their dreams.”

In my head, I was thinking, “isn’t it good to follow your dreams.”

He continues and says

“People need to start accomplishing those dream instead of following them”

Dreams are a good starting point

I remember growing up wanting to be so many things when I grew up. Up until middle school, those dreams actually felt like they could come true because people around me were actually encouraging. Then high school came around. The same question would be asked but in response instead of being supportive and optimistic. It was always “Be Realistic”

Conformity is a disease

Conformity is a dangerous thing and can spread like a wildfire. Once one person starts it begins a continuous cycle. They start to believe what everyone else thinks and goes along with whatever is being said. Every so often there are a few people that come along that disrupt this conformity and create amazing things.

Now or never

There are more opportunities available now more than ever. Just because there are more opportunities it doesn’t mean that people are taking advantage of those opportunities. With that being said it also means these opportunities require some type of sacrifice. Sacrifice can come in the form of time, effort, money, or all of the above.

Plan and execute

Talk is cheap. Doing is what matters. You can talk about dreaming about starting a business or moving up in your current company but that won’t do any good if you don’t do anything about it. Making a plan that you can follow and execute is the difference between Apple and that company you never heard of.

Are you going to fail? There is a good probability that can happen. But who said failure was such a bad thing. It means you actually tried but something didn’t work out along the way.

Dreaming and having a reason to wake up in the morning can be a powerful tool but dreaming is for dreamers. The real test starts with actually, going out to work, sacrificing, putting in the time, to achieve those dreams is the difference between waking up every day dreading going to work or waking up loving what you do.